065. Why someone you love rained on your parade 

 February 6, 2020

Active Constructive Responding

When something wonderful happens, who do you call? How do they respond?

Does that person celebrate with you and increase your joyful experience? Or do they dampen your spirits and leave you wishing you hadn’t called?

Research has shown that how people respond to each other’s good news is a better indicator of the quality of the relationship than how they respond to each other’s disappointments.

Even people who mean well can suck the air out of your sails by sharing their own experience with something similar, pointing out potential pitfalls of your awesome news, or being distracted or disengaged.

But not you. No, you won’t do that.

You can avoid that trap with a simple technique called active constructive responding. Learn about it here.

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