HYHO question 1 is about developing the art of noticing

Your mind (mine too!) is wired to look for danger. It’s always on the lookout for what might go wrong, what could become a problem, what needs to be done to keep you safe.

That’s awesome because it keeps you alive. And it’s also mentally draining, physically exhausting, and emotionally arduous.

This is your brain working as it is designed.

If you’d like a more pleasant experience, you’ve got to train your brain to notice what’s good in your life, what’s going well, what you’d like to celebrate and acknowledge.

At first, that feels hard, but, I promise, it gets easier and easier the more you do it.

In the Helping Yourself to Help Others (HYHO) self-coaching program, you are doing more than just answering a few questions each week.

  • You are creating a habit of noticing what works for you.
  • You’re building the skill of prioritizing what matters to you.
  • You’re connecting to your personal desires and trusting that they’re leading you to the life you want to lead.

Question #1 is deceptively simple: How have you shown up for yourself this week?

Even in your most challenging week, you’ll have an answer to this question … once you develop your skill of noticing.

And the beauty of it is that it doesn’t matter at all whether your examples are big things or small. In fact, the smaller they are, the better.

When you answer your questions, look for tiny, little ways you’ve shown up for yourself. You’ll be able to come up with more if your sorting criteria are gentle. (Are you wearing comfy socks? Did you give your dog an extra minute of love before bed? Have you showered today? Hooray for small wins!)

The hidden magic here is that the more you come up with, the more your brain will learn to be on the lookout for the large and small moments in which you make an active choice that supports you being your best self.

Celebrate approximations!


P.S. Click here to learn more about question #2 and question #3.

Show up for yourself as powerfully as you do for others. You matter.

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