HYHO question 3 is about experimentation and discovery!
Last week, I talked to you about question 1 and how it is helping you develop the skill of noticing what you did that worked. Next week I’ll share thoughts about why question 2 can be so darn tricky and how it’s helping to rewire your brain.
This week, we’re looking at question 3: What will you do or try this week?
Never underestimate the power of choice. When you answer question 3, you’re making a plan to try something and see how well it works for you. It’s all a grand experiment, and you are in charge.
Question 3 is gently giving you a chance to show up for yourself.
The “do or try” language is intentional. Often we have to think about doing things for quite some time before we actually move forward. That is normal, natural, and completely fine.
If this week, you are going to do or try to do something that moves you closer to your goals, you’re giving it awareness and curiosity. Whether you do the desired behavior or not, you will learn something valuable about yourself.
(Whereas if you tell yourself you should or need to do that same thing, you’re likely to wind up in a shame spiral of guilt and self-judgment if you don’t do it. That stops your growth in its tracks and makes it sooo much harder to get going again.)
There is no 3-step formula for success. You need to find what works for YOU. And the only way to do that is to conduct some experiments.
So put your lab coat and goggles on, and let’s see what you discover.
P.S. I send you a fresh idea to think about with each message, but the first three HYHO questions remain the same week after week.
When you start feeling, “Yeah, yeah, yeah, I’ve answered these before. I don’t have anything new to say this week” (and that feeling will come! ), that’s when you'll start uncovering deeper insights. Keep going! Trust the process.
P.P.S. Next week I’ll send you an email that explains question #2. That’s the one people struggle with most, and it’s worth exploring in depth. (Did you miss the email about question #1? You can read it HERE.)
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